Well, more like a minor drama, as no noses were broken nor chairs thrown. But words were, with the result that a scant two weeks after my entree into online social networking, I have "unfriended" someone.
It started with that most innocent of Facebook activities, the friend request. As I mentioned in a previous post, I have been "friended" by a few of the people who share my not-very-common surname (apparently more common than I'd thought).
Funny how that one tenuous link -- just some letters, really, if you think about it -- is enough to melt your reserve, so that you throw open the doors and say, "Come on in!" Admittedly, this is not your actual house, but for those of us who spend most of our days alone on the computer, Facebook can quickly come to feel like home, just as our virtual desktop -- ordered with files, "sticky notes," a background photo, say, of someone we love -- is somehow more our office than our physical desktop (
which, if you're like me, is covered in style sheet hard copies, plates topped with the crumbs of yesterday's lunch, and mugs half filled with stale coffee).
So when I saw those letters so familiar to me, I immediately stamped the visa. Then came a flood of "updates" (paraphrasing here) which gave me a few seconds' pause: "I had tuna for lunch," "I am brushing my hair," "My top 5 [albums, people I want to punch, movie stars I've met, etc. ad infinitum, blah,blah,blah]."
Now, don't get me wrong: posts like those are the lifeblood of Facebook; what, in my opinion, has made it so wildly successful. It's just that some people can overdo it. A fact that I try to keep in mind when I post, though as they say, one woman's treasure is another woman's junk.
The babble I could ignore. It was the censorship that got my attention.
My Facebook relative, like seemingly everyone else on the planet last week, took a public stance on the
Susan Boyle story. A nasty, mean-spirited stance, but still. We all have a right to our opinion.
I posted a comment challenging that stance, then went off to work in the garden and eat dinner.
When I returned to my desk, prior to turning off the computer, I checked Facebook one last time -- and noticed that my post was gone. Airbrushed out of existence, like a movie star's cellulite or Stalin's enemies.
As a FB newbie, I didn't realize you could just "disappear" comments. But there you have it. You can also make friends disappear too, via the "edit" link on your friends list. Which I did, after registering my dismay at being censored. Ah, the irony. It reminds me of high school, without the inedible cafeteria cuisine. But I don't think I'll disappear my Facebook page just yet.